FILE: ARCH-LTR-102 / STATUS: ACTIVE
The Other Side of the File: Compliment Deflection
Read the lines below. Then read what the pattern file says to do.
Every line below was typed by someone on the other side of Compliment Deflection. You are reading what they asked about a person in their life.
They are quoted word for word from public questions. None was written for this page, and nothing was added to them.
Why can't my partner accept compliments from me?
When I compliment my girlfriend, sometimes she doesn’t believe me and tells me to stop exaggerating.
I am in a relationship with a female who doesn’t accept compliments, usually a 'no you' or a fake but very polite 'thank you' is how she responds.
What does it mean when someone can't take a compliment or can't feel comfort with compliment?
How to respond to someone who won't take a compliment
If someone can't accept compliments, is it better not to give them any?
Why do some people reject compliments?
Why do some people find it impossible to accept compliments?
Each line below is a public question a real person typed, quoted word for word. The Archivist chose and ordered them and wrote nothing inside them.
If this pattern is yours, these are the people it reaches. The way back starts in your own body, not in their questions.
Catch the body signal, the one thing you feel in your body as the pattern starts. Intercept the usual response and choose a different action. Rewrite by repeating that action until it is easier to reach.
Assembled by The Archivist from the record.
THE PATTERN FILE
Compliment Deflection: Why can't I take a compliment?
When Compliment Deflection runs for years
These letters are part of the Letters in The Stacks, beside Unsent.
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