FILE: ARCH-LTR-107 / STATUS: ACTIVE
The Other Side of the File: Success Sabotage
Read the lines below. Then read what the pattern file says to do.
Every line below was typed by someone on the other side of Success Sabotage. You are reading what they asked about a person in their life.
They are quoted word for word from public questions. None was written for this page, and nothing was added to them.
I think my girlfriend is self sabotaging our relationship, what should I do? I'm worried she doesn't believe that she is worthy of love.
How to help someone who self-sabotages everything they do
When a person sabotages a good relationship why will they sometimes tell you all the things you did wrong in the relationship?
Why do some people “sabotage” themselves just when they are about to succeed at what they have been doing?
Why do some people sabotage their own happiness when they get too close to getting what they want?
Why do people sabotage their own relationships when things are going well?
Why do people constantly self-sabotage knowing what they’re doing isn’t going to get them what they really want?
What do people gain from sabotaging their own relationships?
Why do people self-sabotage good things?
Each line below is a public question a real person typed, quoted word for word. The Archivist chose and ordered them and wrote nothing inside them.
If this pattern is yours, these are the people it reaches. The way back starts in your own body, not in their questions.
Catch the body signal, the one thing you feel in your body as the pattern starts. Intercept the usual response and choose a different action. Rewrite by repeating that action until it is easier to reach.
Assembled by The Archivist from the record.
THE PATTERN FILE
Success Sabotage: Why do I sabotage myself when things are going well?
When Success Sabotage runs for years
These letters are part of the Letters in The Stacks, beside Unsent.
The free Crash Course, short lessons on your pattern, starts by naming it.