FILE: ARCH-LTR-104 / STATUS: ACTIVE
The Other Side of the File: The Testing Pattern
Read the lines below. Then read what the pattern file says to do.
Every line below was typed by someone on the other side of The Testing Pattern. You are reading what they asked about a person in their life.
They are quoted word for word from public questions. None was written for this page, and nothing was added to them.
My boyfriend told me that he is testing me to see if I'm the one. Why does he do this?
My girlfriend tries to test me and see if I have interest in others because she’s scared I’ll find someone “better” and leave her.
How to tell if your girlfriend is testing your love for her
What are some ways to deal with someone who is constantly testing you in relationships?
Have you ever had a relationship where they 'tested' you frequently?
Why do people feel the need to "test" their significant other?
Is it okay when a person 'tests' their dating partner or significant other?
What are your thoughts on those who test their partner’s loyalty?
Each line below is a public question a real person typed, quoted word for word. The Archivist chose and ordered them and wrote nothing inside them.
If this pattern is yours, these are the people it reaches. The way back starts in your own body, not in their questions.
Catch the body signal, the one thing you feel in your body as the pattern starts. Intercept the usual response and choose a different action. Rewrite by repeating that action until it is easier to reach.
Assembled by The Archivist from the record.
THE PATTERN FILE
The Testing Pattern: Why do I test people who love me?
When The Testing Pattern runs for years
These letters are part of the Letters in The Stacks, beside Unsent.
The free Crash Course, short lessons on your pattern, starts by naming it.