The Archivist Method

    FILE: ARCH-LTR-204  /  STATUS: ACTIVE

    What They Wished You Knew: Compliment Deflection

    You are reading questions people typed about someone who runs Compliment Deflection. Read them, then the pattern file.

    1. I often encourage and compliment my boyfriend. However, whenever I compliment him he just smiles and kind of shrugs it off, and sometimes deny it. Should I stop complimenting him?
    2. How to compliment someone when they think they don’t deserve compliments and therefore get uncomfortable if I compliment them
    3. How to help poeple who don't take or accept compliments, it makes them uncomfortable, why do they feel like that, and most important, how can I compliment them without making them uncomfortable?
    4. Why do some people have a hard time accepting compliments?
    5. What are some reasons why people struggle with accepting compliments?

    Each line below is a public question a real person typed, quoted word for word. The Archivist chose and ordered them and wrote nothing inside them.

    THE PATTERN FILE

    Compliment Deflection: Why can't I take a compliment?

    When Compliment Deflection runs for years

    These letters are part of the Letters in The Stacks, beside Unsent.

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