FILE: ARCH-LTR-205 / STATUS: ACTIVE
What They Wished You Knew: The Draining Bond
You are reading questions people typed about someone who runs The Draining Bond. Read them, then the pattern file.
If the bond has become frightening, or you feel unable to go on, reach a person now.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline. Call 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788. Confidential, around the clock, and they talk about safety planning as well as leaving.
988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Call or text 988, any hour. Confidential, and not only for the worst version of a night.
Crisis Text Line. Text HOME to 741741, if a call is the part you cannot do.
Emergency services: 911.
Any of these can help you think through what comes next.
How to help a girl trapped in an unhealthy relationship? What advice should I give her parents
Should you cut off a friend in an unhealthy relationship who doesn’t take your advice?
Why are some people loyal to people who treat them badly?
Why do people stay in a relationship if they’re not happy?
Why do people stay in unhappy relationships, friendships, and marriages?
Each line below is a public question a real person typed, quoted word for word. The Archivist chose and ordered them and wrote nothing inside them.
THE PATTERN FILE
The Draining Bond: Why can't I leave a relationship that is draining me?
When The Draining Bond runs for years
These letters are part of the Letters in The Stacks, beside Unsent.
The free Crash Course, short lessons on your pattern, starts by naming it.