FILE: ARCH-LTR-103 / STATUS: ACTIVE
The Other Side of the File: The Disappearing Pattern
Read the lines below. Then read what the pattern file says to do.
Every line below was typed by someone on the other side of The Disappearing Pattern. You are reading what they asked about a person in their life.
They are quoted word for word from public questions. None was written for this page, and nothing was added to them.
Why does he pull away when we seem close, even though he says he likes me and wants to continue seeing me?
Why does my bf pull away when I show him affection?
Whenever my ex and I get close again he does something to push me away. Why bother getting close just to do that?
What could be the reason for a guy pulling back after getting close with you?
Why does he distant himself when I get close and when I ignore him, he chases me again?
Why has my girlfriend randomly pulled away?
How to behave when he pulls away and acts rude and distant in the relationship
Why do some people lose interest after showing strong interest at the beginning of dating?
Each line below is a public question a real person typed, quoted word for word. The Archivist chose and ordered them and wrote nothing inside them.
If this pattern is yours, these are the people it reaches. The way back starts in your own body, not in their questions.
Catch the body signal, the one thing you feel in your body as the pattern starts. Intercept the usual response and choose a different action. Rewrite by repeating that action until it is easier to reach.
Assembled by The Archivist from the record.
THE PATTERN FILE
The Disappearing Pattern: Why do I push people away when they get close?
When The Disappearing Pattern runs for years
These letters are part of the Letters in The Stacks, beside Unsent.
The free Crash Course, short lessons on your pattern, starts by naming it.