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People-pleasing statistics, each one read in its source
Pick a number, open its source, and check it yourself. Every number below links to the text it came from.
LAST CHECKED: OCTOBER 10, 2026
Every number here was read in its source on October 8, 2026, and links to it.
Each number below was read at source. We opened each poll or paper on October 8, 2026. A number stayed only if it was in that text.
Counts are the source's own. We did not round, convert or combine them. A poll counts the people who answered it, not everyone.
How common it is
49%
Share of 1,000 US adults, polled in June 2022, who would call themselves a people-pleaser.
Women are more likely than men to say they're a people-pleaser, and many dislike being seen as one. YouGov, 2022. Open the page
56%
Share of women who would describe themselves that way, against 42% of men, in the same poll.
Women are more likely than men to say they're a people-pleaser, and many dislike being seen as one. YouGov, 2022. Open the page
92%
Share who said they do at least one of nine people-pleasing behaviors somewhat or very often.
Women are more likely than men to say they're a people-pleaser, and many dislike being seen as one. YouGov, 2022. Open the page
52%
Share who said they often feel they cannot say no when someone asks for something.
Women are more likely than men to say they're a people-pleaser, and many dislike being seen as one. YouGov, 2022. Open the page
35%
Share of men who often feel responsible for how other people feel; 46% of women did.
Women are more likely than men to say they're a people-pleaser, and many dislike being seen as one. YouGov, 2022. Open the page
Two years on
1,122
US adult citizens polled online from August 26 to 30, 2024, in the second wave.
Half of self-described people-pleasers think being this way makes life harder. YouGov, 2024. Open the page
29%
Share who said they very often go to great lengths to avoid conflict; 42% said somewhat often.
Half of self-described people-pleasers think being this way makes life harder. YouGov, 2024. Open the page
24%
Share who said they very often put other people's needs first, at their own expense.
Half of self-described people-pleasers think being this way makes life harder. YouGov, 2024. Open the page
17%
Share who said they very often feel they cannot say no; 35% said somewhat often.
Half of self-described people-pleasers think being this way makes life harder. YouGov, 2024. Open the page
48%
Share of self-described people-pleasers who said being this way has made their life harder.
Half of self-described people-pleasers think being this way makes life harder. YouGov, 2024. Open the page
33%
Share of people-pleasing men who said it made life harder, against 59% of people-pleasing women.
Half of self-described people-pleasers think being this way makes life harder. YouGov, 2024. Open the page
Saying no, and asking
48%
Average amount by which people asking a favor underestimated how many would say yes.
(Mis)Understanding Our Influence Over Others. Bohns, 2016. Current Directions in Psychological Science. Open the paper
14,000
Strangers approached with requests across the studies that review pools.
(Mis)Understanding Our Influence Over Others. Bohns, 2016. Current Directions in Psychological Science. Open the paper
as much as 50%
How far people underestimated the chance that others would agree to a direct request for help.
If you need help, just ask: Underestimating compliance with direct requests for help. Flynn and Bohns, 2008. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Open the paper
34 Times
How much more often a face-to-face request succeeded than the same request by email.
A Face-to-Face Request Is 34 Times More Successful than an Email. University of Waterloo, Management Science and Engineering, 2017. Open the page Reports: Research by Roghanizad and Bohns on asking in person against asking by email, as the university's own news page sums it up.
How we checked
A runner opened each source on October 8, 2026, and saved what it read. A number appears here only if it sits in that saved text, word for word.
The link beside each number opens the source, so you can check it yourself. The two polls are opt-in online panels, weighted to look like US adults.
The pattern behind it
Saying yes when you mean no is close kin to The Apology Loop. The Apology Loop is the pattern of saying sorry before anything has gone wrong.
The numbers above say how many people recognise the habit. They do not say what any one person should do about it.
Catch is the first move. Catch means you feel the body signal and name the pattern before it becomes the behavior.
The body signal is what you feel in your body as the pattern starts. It might be a tight throat as the yes forms.
The free Crash Course, short lessons on your pattern, starts by naming it.
HOW TO CITE THIS PAGE
The Archivist Method (2026). People-pleasing statistics, each one read in its source. The Numbers. https://thearchivistmethod.com/statistics/people-pleasing