- When The Disappearing Pattern runs for years
The Disappearing Pattern is the pull away from people as they get close, repeated for years.
- When The Apology Loop runs for years
The Apology Loop is the pattern of saying sorry before anything has gone wrong, for years.
- When The Testing Pattern runs for years
The Testing Pattern is the habit of testing people who love you, and no answer lasts.
- When Attraction to Harm runs for years
Attraction to Harm is the pull toward people who hurt you, repeated with a new face.
- When Compliment Deflection runs for years
Compliment Deflection is the habit of pushing praise away, which people describe costing them credit and pay.
- When The Draining Bond runs for years
The Draining Bond is the pattern of staying where you are worn down, sometimes for years.
- When Success Sabotage runs for years
Success Sabotage is the pattern of undoing things just as they start to work, again and again.
- When The Perfectionism Trap runs for years
The Perfectionism Trap is the pattern of not finishing what is not perfect, sometimes for years.
- When The Rage Pattern runs for years
The Rage Pattern is the flare of anger over small things that lands hardest on those closest.
- When a pattern runs for years at work
At work, people describe one pattern costing them a role, then a raise, then a chance.
- When a pattern runs for years with money
With money, people describe the same pattern resetting the balance every few months, for years.
- When a pattern runs for years in the family you grew up in
With family, people describe the same pattern still running decades after the house they learned it in.
- When a pattern runs for years in creative work
In creative work, people describe years passing between almost done and done.
- When friendships fade for years
Friendships lost to this pattern rarely end in a fight. They end in a silence that keeps going.
- When a friendship drains you for years
People describe ending a draining friendship in their head for years while it goes on unchanged.